How many times have you broken down and told yourself that you’re too tired and can’t be emotionally strong anymore? Amy Morin too faced similar thoughts and distraught situations. But then she wrote a self-note to help herself which led to her authoring the bestselling book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Amy is also a psychotherapist, psychology instructor, and a keynote speaker.
Amy was just 23 when she suddenly lost her mother to brain aneurysm. It was tough on her. While on her path to recovery and healing, using skills she provided her own clients with, Amy was dealt another harsh blow. On her mother’s third death anniversary, she lost husband to a heart attack. Insurmountable grief overcame her again. However, she managed to get through it and found happiness again with her new husband. Within five years, Amy was struck the third time, when she and her family received bad news about her father-in-law’s health.
Self-pity would only rob me of mental strength. I knew I had to avoid those unhealthy habits that could hold me back.”
Amy had to deal with different experiences of death, and it filled her with dread. But, she was familiar with the dark road and didn’t want to fall into the same trap. So, she sat down and wrote of her personal struggles in her now internationally-known viral blog post, ‘13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do’. It is based on the 13 Things that could hold her back from getting better, if she allowed them to take hold of her. Amy says, “Self-pity would only rob me of mental strength. I knew I had to avoid those unhealthy habits that could hold me back.”
She had never imagined the post she had written for herself three years ago would be read by over 30 million people. Amy describes the whirlwind of emotions she experienced when an agent approached her to turn it into a book, “I had never imagined being an author and I wasn’t sure I could do it! Although there were times when I wasn’t sure if my book was going to resonate with people, I reminded myself of how many people had read the article and I knew people were interested in learning more about mental strength.”
Amy says that she is thoroughly humbled by the response of readers from all over the world. They email her and tell her of their stories of heartache, and talk about their resilience. The incredible response from people has resulted in the book being translated in 25 languages. Driven by the success of her blog and book, Amy became a keynote speaker in 2013, and has given a number of Tedx talks. The more people she can reach out to, that many can be helped.
There were times when I wasn’t sure if my book was going to resonate with people, I reminded myself of how many people had read the article and I knew people were interested in learning more about mental strength.”
There are very few genuine and honest people left in this world, but one such gem is Amy’s husband’s 91-year-old grandmother, who inspires her every day. Amy says, “I’ve never heard her complain about anything. Instead, she always asks, ‘What can I do for you?’”. Amy also gathered a lot of courage from her mother, who was a very strong woman and taught her a lot about life.
Motivated by the continuous and overwhelming interest of the readers, in mental health, Amy has created an online course called Mental Strength: Mastering the 3 Core Factors. It provides people with more strategies for building mental strength. Additionally, Amy has completed her second book titled ‘Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do’, which will be ready for release in the fall of 2017.
As the days pass, the leaves turn, flowers blossom and things get easier; it’s just a matter of believing that it will and it has to. And that’s why Amy says, “Suffering and pain can help you learn important life lessons.” She further adds, “And you don’t have to do everything by yourself. A strong spiritual faith can help you find strength. Friends and family members can also help you. Professional help from a therapist or a doctor can also be instrumental. If it’s not available, seek self-help resources such as books, online forums, or support groups.”
A heart in the sea of clacking minds, Amy Morin found strength in her heart. People often forget that the Heart is the strongest muscle, trust it to give you the strength you need.